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Havdallah during the nine days


On Motzei Shabbos Chazon (the Shabbos before Tisha Ba'av which always falls out during the nine days), what should be done about drinking the wine/grape juice for Havdallah?

If a child is available, what age child would be ideal?

Is it even better to use a child in the first place (if you do have a child the correct age) or to drink it oneself?

Is it better to use beer?

Please source your answer. Thanks.

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What about Motzei Shabbos during the nine days that isn't Chazon? AA​ 17 days ago

According to this meta proposal this question appears off topic. AA​ 17 days ago

Fwiw on the rare occasion I've been present to celebrate a siyum during the nine days I've never seen anyone giving away their meat, if there was any, to a child. AA​ 17 days ago

@AA That is really not the same. I have heard this particular topic discussed many times before. (My LOR even noted in the Shiur that for many years when he discussed it, I would use the example of whichever one of my kids was the "right" age; now mine are older but the Rabbi has kids in that age range). A Siym, or a Bris, is a special Seudas Mitzvah. I believe the concern with Havdalah is that it is not special. manassehkatz 17 days ago

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Pretty much every approach you mentioned has its adherents. To give some examples:

Shulchan Aruch Orach Chayyim 551:10 rules that it is permissible to drink the havdallah wine during the nine days.

Rema ad loc. notes a local custom not to drink the wine, but instead to give it to a minor to drink. If no minor is available, then the adult making havdallah drinks the wine.

Mishnah Berurarah 551:70 believes that the minor under discussion is one who has reached the age of chinuch, but not yet of the age where he is able to mourn the destruction of Jerusalem.

Aruch HaShulchan Orach Chayyim 551:26 notes that the custom in his locale was to use beer.



Rabbi Yehuda Spitz discusses the matter in the Yated Ne'eman and summarizes the three main approaches.

The Shulchan Aruch Oruch Chaim 551:10 states that the person making havdallah should drink the wine. The Gra explqains that this is because havdallah is no worse than a seudas mitzvah, such as at a bris or a siyum. Sefardim follow this psak.

The Rama says that if possible, the kos should be given to a katan. However, if there is no katan available to drink the wine, th person making havdalla is allowed to drink the kos.

The Magain Avraham says that the child must not be old enough to mourn the bais hamikdash, but must be old enough to understand the need to make a bracha on the wine. This avoids the problem of bracha le'vatalah.

So, basically, to fulfill the Rama's ruling lechatchilah, the child must be in the ballpark of 6 to 9 years old8; otherwise, it would be preferable for an adult to drink it. This ruling is followed by most Ashkenazic authorities, including the Magein Avrohom, Chayei Adam, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch and Mishnah Berurah.9

The third option is to replace the wine with beer. The Aruch Hashulchan prefers this option because he considers beer chamar medinah. However, the Magein Avrohom and the Vilna Gaon ruled that in Ashkenaz, beer has lost is status of chamar medina and is therefore not usable for havdalla. The Chazon Ish ruled that even if beer was chamar medina in the time of the Vilna Gaon, it no longer has that status in our day, especially based on how it is viewed in Eretz Yisrael.

Even many of those who would consider beer chamar medina would allow it only when wine is not readily available. Thus, beer would not be used in our day since wine is readily available.


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